If I could magically create my ideal mate I don’t know if I would- but it would be great to be able to have him as an example. SO many times I’ve had to try and explain to baffled men on dating sites what I what…which just clarifies to me that they clearly aren’t the right person. In all of my profiles, I ask not to message me with anything related to looks- not because I think I’m all that attractive and think it would happen too frequently, but because that’s not what I want to base a match off of. Especially because in the case of online dating, if you message me at all then it’s kind of understood that you find me reasonably good looking. I don’t want to hear you gush about what I look like because I’m not going to look like that for very long. I want someone that I can bicker with, in a fun way, someone that I can have a conversation with and not have to explain that what I just said was sarcastic. If I have to back-track after all of my one-liners then it’s boring, annoying, and probably not enjoyable for you either. I don’t want to fight, I want to TALK. Discussion. This has to be possible right? I don’t want you to ask me for permission to talk to me, or to be coddled like a fragile baby doll. I don’t want to skip over the dating aspect completely either. This seems to be completely unfathomable to the majority of the population and I either have really high standards or the person I’m searching for just plain doesn’t exist. The dark story behind it is that I used to be fat, I’m scared I’ll be fat again and I don’t want someone to run out on me if that happens. On the flip side I want someone that is as serious about their health and body as I am- so we can stay healthy and raise healthy kids together. Am I saying this person has to be in impeccable shape with no body fat? Absolutely not. If you would rather sit inside over going out for a walk on a nice day then we aren’t going to have any common ground. I like staying in, but only when it’s dark. Let’s me active, healthy, communicative and silly vampires.
If you’re reading this tell me, but obviously not late at night because I’m asleep.